Virginity

[Cart Horse]

huh?

[Bebe]

Originally Posted by Cart Horse

huh?

Ella thinks I raped Mikey.../shrug

[Cart Horse]

Originally Posted by Bebe

Ella thinks I raped Mikey.../shrug

So what was it like

[luddite]

Originally Posted by Diana

That is why I made the What Is Love thread, so I can see how it feels like. But I am just scared that I will never be able to.

I think it is when you can be yourself 100% your partner can be, when you can talk openly and when you think of the person and suddenly feel great about everything. Also when you dream at night with them beside you you dream good stuff and wake up feeling safe and secure.

There are hundreds of other things that the person does that make you happy and it never stops and becomes sort of all -encompassing without being overbearing.

Looking at all of what i just typed it doesnt look too nice does it? Try it, you have to open yourself to love and it can show up in very weird times.

Originally Posted by porky2468

It sounds SO cheesey, but you'll know when you're in love!!

What she said ;-)

Originally Posted by Mikey

meh... wasn;t really given a choice.

:-(

[NoArmsJames]

Diana, I wouldn't worry too much about finding love. When I was your age I was in the same boat. I had never had a girlfriend, I was a virgin, and I was scared I'd never find love either. I was always looking for it, and it always eluded me. I had pretty much given up, then love found me. One of my hippie friends always says "Let go, and let the universe take control". I make fun of her stupid hippie ass for saying that all the time, but there is some truth to it. When I let go, I got what I wanted.

[campy]

Love isn't at all what I expected....it is a feeling of security and comfort I have never had with anyone else.

I didn't find the right man until I was 28...had a few "Mr Right Now's" but nothing real. It takes time and you grow as a person in that time. You find out what you like, what you are willing to live with and without. By the time you are in your late 20ties the illusion of love is gone and you are more realistic about the people you meet. For me I was established as a person. I can grow and evolve but I know that I like who I am and will not change to please even the man I love. This is the benefit to finding love a little later in life.

[marina]

Originally Posted by Bebe

Ella thinks I raped Mikey.../shrug

Originally Posted by Cart Horse

So what was it like

Rape-y, I suspect.

[Bebe]

Originally Posted by marina

Rape-y, I suspect.

Nah, better

[marina]

Originally Posted by Bebe

Nah, better

Ooooh I see. Then in that case...

[CandleGirl]

Originally Posted by Diana

If you did, at what age did you lose yours? Did you regret it? And what do you think about saving it until marriage? Is it really that much of a special thing?

I was 13, and never regretted it for a moment. He was my first love (yes, it is possible to actually love someone at 13), and I still love him to this day. We broke up sometime in high school, and never got back together. He ended up getting married, having kids, etc. We had an affair a couple years back, and have always had feelings for each other. I stopped the affair when I started getting serious with my current boyfriend.

Sadly... he died a couple months ago... I used to say that I lived my life with no regrets, but not being with him as an adult is definitely a huge regret for me now.